Unresolved Grief

Introduction to Unresolved Grief

Grieving is a natural way of coming to terms with loss, but for some, it can be devastating and the worst pain that we will ever feel. It is our emotional response to our loss, and attempting to ignore or bury the pain will not lessen the overwhelming feelings.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but when it impacts upon your life negatively after a year or so, or even after many years, it may be time to ask for professional help; we will need to find new ways of adapting and coping with life after a loss.

The sadness that we feel during a bereavement is not the same as being depressed, but for some people the grief process may lead to depression. As well as the death of a loved one, it may be triggered by the same life events that cause stress and anxiety, for example; the loss of a job, the loss of financial security, the loss of a much-loved pet, the loss of a relationship. In fact, anything that leave us with an emptiness in our life.

Picture of a person in Norwich who is suffering from Depression.

What are the signs of Unresolved Grief?

If you are suffering from several of the following symptoms, you may be suffering from unresolved grief:

  • anger
  • frustration
  • shock
  • numbness
  • denial
  • guilt
  • fear
  • sadness
  • loneliness
  • longing
  • regret
  • eventually, acceptance

How can I treat Unresolved Grief?


I find that talking therapies are a large part of the therapy process. I use various techniques and psychological approaches to help you, including evidence-based theories such as Person Centred counselling, the Human Givens, Transactional Analysis, NLP, Human Toolbox™, deep relaxation, hypnotherapy and thought field therapy. I prefer to use a solution-focused rather than problem-focused approach, which builds on positive feelings rather than reinforcing negative ones.

I understand how overwhelming talking therapies can be for my clients, and my aim is to make you feel at ease with me. I will gently encourage you to tell me your ‘story’, but only when you feel ready and will not make you share anything that you don’t want to. I like to think that my ‘superpower’ is making our sessions feel like we are just having a chat! 

I work in my peaceful garden therapy room, at my home in Norwich, Norfolk, where I hope you will feel safe and secure enough to be able to talk about the issues that are distressing you, and feel at ease sharing your problems with me.

You will find more information about me and the techniques I use on other pages of my website.

Even the darkest night will end and the sun will shine.
Victor Hugo, Les Miserables