Stress and Anxiety

Introduction to Stress and Anxiety

A certain amount of stress and anxiety is natural as it is a response to our normal everyday worries. It becomes a problem when it builds up until we feel overwhelmed, worrying and anticipating future events or ‘what if’ situations. Fear is a state that occurs in the present moment in response to real or imagined danger, causing a ‘fight, flight or freeze’ response; in the wild, an animal may be hunted but as soon as the danger has passed, their ‘fight or flight’ response will settle down as if nothing has happened. Unfortunately, as humans, when we are suffering from chronic anxiety, this response is on long term alert, which can cause physical and emotional illness. 

  • a fast pulse
  • shortness of breath
  • a churning feeling in your stomach
  • feeling light-headed or dizzy
  • pins and needles in your hands and feet
  • feeling restless or unable to sit still
  • sweating
  • headaches
  • racing thoughts
Picture of a person in Norwich who is suffering from Depression.

Anxiety is actually a group of disorders that include generalised anxiety, social anxiety, separation anxiety, phobias, panic, PTSD or OCD. Some of the symptoms of anxiety may overlap with those of depression, for example, insomnia, trouble concentrating and irritability, but they are two different problems; people with depression tend to move and react slowly and are unable to think about how their future will ever change for the better so live in the past, whereas, people with anxiety tend to fear the future or future prospects. Like depression though, it may be triggered by major life events such as:

  • relationship breakdowns and divorce
  • major life changes, like changing job or moving house
  • bereavements
  • being bullied or abused
  • a traumatic event, such as being physically or sexually assaulted
  • financial insecurity
  • loneliness
  • job loss or retirement
  • chronic illness
  • our children leaving home
  • the death of a much-loved pet

How can I help treat your Stress and Anxiety?


I find that talking therapies are a large part of the therapy process. I use various techniques and psychological approaches to help you, including evidence-based theories such as Person Centred counselling, the Human Givens, Transactional Analysis, NLP, Human Toolbox™ , deep relaxation, hypnotherapy and thought field therapy. I prefer to use a solution-focused rather than problem-focused approach, which builds on positive feelings rather than reinforcing negative ones.

I understand how overwhelming talking therapies can be for my clients, and my aim is to make you feel at ease with me. I will gently encourage you to tell me your ‘story’, but only when you feel ready and will not make you share anything that you don’t want to. I like to think that my ‘superpower’ is making our sessions feel like we are just having a chat! 

I work in my peaceful garden therapy room, at my home in Norwich, Norfolk, where I hope you will feel safe and secure enough to be able to talk about the issues that are distressing you, and feel at ease sharing your problems with me.

You will find more information about me and the techniques I use on other pages of my website.

One of our greatest freedoms is how we react to things.
Charlie Mackesy