What is Psychotherapy?

 

Psychotherapy (or counselling) is very simply a ‘talking therapy’ which can help with issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship difficulties, addictions, grief, overwhelming stress and trauma.  It’s a way of helping people using psychological, evidence-based techniques to create happier, better-adjusted people.

I don’t adhere to one particular therapy approach, but tend to dip in and out of many, depending on the needs of my client.  (Please see ‘About Me’ to read more about these approaches).  Although clients need to be supported and listened to and given time to tell their stories, that is not all they need; whilst psychotherapists do listen, they also challenge negative beliefs, teach coping strategies, and focus on thoughts and feelings.

Some clients need a short course of therapy, whilst others may see me for weeks or even months.  Compared to more ‘traditional’ counselling, I may ask the questions they have avoided asking themselves, but only when they’re ready, and I think my expertise lies in knowing when and how to ask the difficult questions.  I may offer suggestions and help them to see their problem from a different perspective, but I will not give them answers or tell them what to do.

Research shows that one of the most important aspects of psychotherapy is the relationship clients form with their therapist, as research shows that a trusting, supportive and respectful relationship will enhance the success of our sessions together.  An effective therapist will encourage clients to meet their own emotional needs outside the therapy room, rather than becoming dependent on the therapist, and we now know that rumination is toxic for issues like depression, so endlessly encouraging clients to reflect on past experiences may actually make them worse.I prefer a ‘solution-focused’ approach as I believe we need to learn from and accept the past but focus on the present and the future.

Often, I am privileged and humbled to be the first person a client has been able to tell their deepest secrets to, and I understand how stressful therapy can be for some clients initially, especially if they’ve not experienced any other therapy beforehand.  My aim is to make them feel at ease with me and gently encourage them to tell me their ‘story’, but only when they feel ready.  I will not make them share anything that they don’t want to, and I like to think that my ‘superpower’ is making sessions feel like we are just having a chat, and there is often laughter in my therapy room!

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Einstein

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