An Introduction to Addiction

Addiction begins as an activity that we enjoy and becomes a problem when it develops into a habit that negatively impacts on our lives and our thoughts, and even the people we care for. We can become addicted to anything that brings us pleasure or relief, for example:

  • alcohol
  • drugs
  • work
  • self-harming
  • eating
  • shopping
  • gambling
  • watching the television
  • computer gaming
  • checking social media

We become pre-occupied with the search for ‘pleasure’ or maybe to block out physical or mental pain, until the behaviour is controlling us; you need more and more of the ‘thing’ to satisfy the craving and create the ‘buzz’ or ‘high’. It may even lead to other problems, such as anger, depression, insomnia, physical illness, financial insecurity or even crime.

Whatever the addiction, it can be beaten using techniques and strategies to bring a natural satisfaction or reward to your life; you won’t need your addiction when your emotional needs are being met. People who feel fulfilled in their lives do not need to indulge in addictive activities. According to the Human Givens therapy approach, all addictive behaviours work through the ‘pleasure expectation’ pathway in the brain, so this expectation needs to be reduced, using techniques such as deep relaxation and visualisation.

How can I help with your addictions?


I find that talking therapies are a large part of the therapy process. I use various techniques and psychological approaches to help you, including evidence-based theories such as Person Centred counselling, the Human Givens, Transactional Analysis, NLP, Human Toolbox™, deep relaxation, hypnotherapy and thought field therapy. I prefer to use a solution-focused rather than problem-focused approach, which builds on positive feelings rather than reinforcing negative ones.

I understand how overwhelming talking therapies can be for my clients, and my aim is to make you feel at ease with me. I will gently encourage you to tell me your ‘story’, but only when you feel ready and will not make you share anything that you don’t want to. I like to think that my ‘superpower’ is making our sessions feel like we are just having a chat! 

I work in my peaceful garden therapy room, at my home in Norwich, Norfolk, where I hope you will feel safe and secure enough to be able to talk about the issues that are distressing you, and feel at ease sharing your problems with me.

You will find more information about me and the techniques I use on other pages of my website.

People in therapy are often in therapy to deal with the people in their lives who won’t go to therapy.