More About Me
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I don’t adhere to one particular therapy approach; I’m an ‘Integrative’ therapist, in that I tend to dip in and out of many, depending on the needs of the client, identifying and using techniques that work. I prefer a ‘solution-focused’ approach as I believe we need to learn from the past but focus on the present and the future. I use a ‘Person Centred Counselling’ (Carl Rogers) approach; as therapists, we should always be genuine, empathetic and non-judgmental, and, perhaps obviously, client-centred. I particularly love the ‘Human Givens’ approach for suggesting that we need to meet both our physical and emotional needs to be mentally well, and ‘Transactional Analysis’ (Eric Berne) for helping us to understand our relationship with others.
NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming, developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder) is a blend of our thoughts, our language and our behaviour, and I use aspects of it to help a client reprocess old patterns or habits which are affecting them negatively.Hypnotherapy is a natural state of deep relaxation or ‘trance’, a little bit like a daydream or a guided meditation, and can help with reprocessing behaviours such as trauma and phobias at a deeper, unconscious level (Please see blog for more information about NLP and Hypnotherapy).
I am a Human Toolbox Practitioner, which offers a practical, common sense approach to living our lives with balance, peace and contentment once we learn how to use the ‘tools’ we all have within us. (Please see blog for more information).
I am also qualified to use the ‘Rewind Technique’; a powerful, but relaxing technique used to treat trauma and phobias, often in only one session.
I use the ‘Human Givens’ (HG) approach to underpin my work; we must have our emotional needs met to be mentally healthy. I believe that we have the resources we need within us to make changes, but sometimes we need guidance to access them, and this is where I can help you.
Although I see clients suffering with, for example, depression, I don’t use a specific ‘formula’ for a particular mental health problem. In fact, as Irvin D Yalom suggests, I “strive to develop a new therapy for each client”. Everyone I work with has a different ‘story’ to relate, so they will need a different approach from another person suffering with a similar issue. Some need to be heard, acknowledged and accepted, some need to cry, some need coping strategies, some need to deal with trauma and some need to find ways of accepting the past. Many lack self–confidence and have poor self–esteem, many have been suffering for much of their lives and for others, a more recent crisis may have led them to seek my help.
My Approach & Values
I genuinely believe that the best person to help you is someone who has experienced similar mental health issues, and, like many, I have suffered from periods of overwhelming depression and bereavement during my life. But we all react to similar experiences in different ways, and so it is important for me to treat each client as an individual and use whichever technique you feel most comfortable with. Often my clients simply need to be heard, acknowledged
I love working with young people as, having two teens of my own aged 22 and 18, I am aware of the pressures they are under, and why so many of them suffer from stress, anxiety and lack of self-confidence and self-esteem, which may lead to extreme behaviours such as self-harming, eating disorders, addiction and suicidal ideation. I believe that if we help them at a younger age, they will have the skills and confidence to lead happier, more fulfilling lives.
I am fully insured and registered with the National Council of Psychotherapists, the General Hypnotherapy Council and the Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council, and in accordance with their policies, I have regular meetings with my supervisor, who is himself an experienced therapist, and also attend a monthly Peer Support Group. In addition, I believe it is vital to keep myself up to date, and undertake ‘Continuing Professional Development’, either in the form of further courses or reading.
During my previous career as a nurse; a paediatric nurse and a GP practice nurse, I gained a great deal of experience of working with patients of all ages, including young adults, teenagers and children. I was the Lead Nurse for Sexual Health at a GP Practice and also worked at a University Medical Centre with a large student population.
My skills and experience come from not only the qualifications I have gained, but also from thirty three years as a nurse and over fifty years as a human being!
1989: Registered General and Sick Children’s Nurse
2000: Registered Midwife
2017: Diploma in Hypnotherapy
2017: Certificate in Neuro Linguistic Programming
2017: Certificate in Thought Field Therapy (Algorithms)
2018: HG certificate: Effective brief psychotherapy
2018: HG certificate: How to make counselling more effective
2018: HG certificate: Understanding Anxiety
2018: HG certificate: How to break the cycle of depression
2019: Human Toolbox™ Practitioner Training
2019: Uncommon Knowledge certificates
– The Rewind Technique
– How to Lift Depression Fast
– How to Lift Low Self Esteem
The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.